Finding a good marriage therapist is HARD! Believe me, I know! 

I see finding a therapist like dating— you have to connect! Finding a couples counselor is even trickier, as you BOTH need to feel heard, understood, and seen.

I felt a bit like goldilocks when I tried to get help from three different couples therapists—the first one told me our relationship problems would be fixed if we just prayed. The second chose sides (not helpful!). And the third didn’t seem to have any theoretical basis for what they did. 

I decided I want to be the kind of couples counselor I WISH I had!

How I help

I used evidenced-based treatments to help you understand the relationship patterns you are both stuck in, and why. I believe that we act the way we do in our relationships because we don’t know how to get our needs met in other ways. I help you understand what is really going on that makes you react to your partner in hurtful ways, especially when how we are acting doesn’t logically seem to make sense! I help you uncover the thoughts and emotions that are behind your actions, in order to help you make sense of them and learn new patterns. 

I believe that a good relationship takes time, intention, and empathy.

I celebrated my 16th wedding anniversary, and haven’t been happier.

It’s not the dopamine-fueled falling-in-love of our early relationship, but a more mature kind of love. It requires understanding that my partner has his own wants, needs, and desires— separate from my own. It requires me to own my immaturity and take ownership of how I show up in the relationship. (Absolutely easier said than done!)

None of us is perfect. Conflict and ruptures in relationships are normal. Did your parents model and teach you how to apologize? Or were disagreements swept under the rug? I believe learning to repair ruptures is vital for having a healthy relationship.

I want to be your couples therapist, and help you and your partner learn how to communicate and repair your relationship!

I love working with couples throughout Texas via telehealth and in person in Frisco, who are motivated and ready to move from frustration, disconnection, and hopelessness into empathy, connection and hope for the future! I love working with couples before they get married, as well as helping them revive their relationship by working on intimacy and sex, communication, or faith transitions. 

Let me help you have the relationship you deserve!

If you are ready to increase the intimacy in your relationship, sign up below for a FREE 15 minute consultation. We can talk about how therapy can help you have hope that things can get better, and that your relationship in and out of the bedroom can improve!