Helping Couples Revive Their Sex Life

You want to feel sexy, to feel attractive, to feel desirable. But life has just gotten so busy. You spend all your time taking care of other people, that  by the time the kids are in bed all you want to do is sit on the couch and veg. It seems too hard to switch from mom mode to sexy wife. 

You can barely remember the last time you felt excited about sex.

You and your husband aren't having sex often. And worse than that, you don't really feel connected like you once did. You start to pick yourself apart and wonder if he even finds you attractive anymore. He says he does, but you can't believe him.

Remember when sex was FUN and you looked FORWARD to it? 

It just isn’t fun anymore. You want your partner to be more physically affectionate, not just in the bedroom. You want to connect more romantically. You wish he would pay more attention to you but he spends too much time on his phone. And since he is on his phone, you are on yours, and the cycle continues.

You are scared your relationship is slipping away.

You are afraid that if you don’t have sex that he will turn to other things to get his needs met. Pornography. Another woman. You already feel overwhelmed with everything else-- sex feels like just one more thing to add to your to do list. And you definitely don’t want to feel obligated to have sex. You keep thinking that sex is one of the top reasons people get divorced. You are scared that if you guys can’t figure it out, you will be headed that way. You know that sex is an important part of your relationship, and its starting to affect everything else. The truth is, it is more than just the lack of sex. You feel lonely in your relationship, and you know he does too. 

I know it is hard to know who you can talk to about your sex life. What is normal and realistic after five years (or fifteen) together? Is there a way to reconnect, or is this the new normal? And truth be told, you worry about people judging you or your spouse. 

What is sex therapy?

You may be apprehensive about sex therapy, and have questions about what exactly sex therapy is. These questions are normal, because sex therapy isn’t well understood. Basically, sex therapy is just like regular therapy— there is no touching involved. We will discuss your concerns, specifically related to your sexual concerns.

Since many people feel uncomfortable or shy discussing sex, I will also give you a safe space in which to discuss your sexual concerns, from a non-judgmental or shaming perspective. Together we will unpack what is happening without judgment, shame, or obligation. Learn how to reconnect with yourself sexually, find out what you really need from your partner and how to communicate that in and out of the bedroom. 

We'll unpack any old beliefs that don't fit anymore (especially from cultural and religious misconceptions) that are getting in the way of you having the intimacy you crave to have in your relationship. I often use metaphors and humor to help you discover that sex doesn’t have to be a taboo or scary subject, but can have an element of fun and playfulness that can revive your relationship!  

We'll work together weekly to get to the bottom of what is happening and you'll have homework assignments to help augment the time we are spending in therapy so you can get where you are going quickly. I know you need and want things to get on track as quickly as possible. 

I love working with couples before they get married, as well as helping them revive their relationship by working on intimacy and sex, communication, or faith transitions. 

Let me help you have the sex life you deserve!

If you are ready to increase the intimacy in your relationship, sign up below for a FREE 15 minute consultation. We can talk about how therapy can help you have hope that things can get better, and that your sex life can improve!